A V Day Gift Guide to Remember

This Valentine’s Day, #treatyoself

Have you been naughty or nice this year? Well, it’s only been a month, and it doesn’t really matter because it’s Valentine’s Day, so… we’re saying, treat yoself! Whether you’ve successfully cuffed yourself a boo thang, or you’re ridin’ solo, this V Day, we want you to focus on YOU!

We’ve teamed up with Unbound, our fave online shop for all things pleasure, to bring you a Valentine’s Day Gift Guide! Best part? You get 15% off anything in the shop (whether it’s in our fancy schmancy gift guide or nah) using the code TABUVDAY15.

We present to you, the 12 Days of V:

[V]esper by Crave
The ultimate in #treatingyoself? This vibrator necklace! Vibrator. Necklace. Definitely gives new meaning to the expression, look good; feel good.

Cleo Bangle Handcuffs by Unbound
Let’s start with something truly fabulous. Bangles by day, handcuffs by night (or also day – heyyyy we don’t judge). Need we say more?

Desir Metallique Collar by Bijoux Indiscrets
Sex-essories are the new….black? We’re going to have to work on that one. Unbound describes this collar as being a statement piece. The statement being? “B*tch. I have ARRIVED.”

“Shhh” Satin Blindfold by Bijoux Indiscrets
Blindfolds can be a great way to introduce something new and exciting into the bedroom. We think Jessica O’Reilly, PhD said it best, “The sensory deprivation you experience when you eliminate the sense of sight only heightens the perception of other senses, making every touch and every whisper all the more titillating. But blindfolds are also popular as a tool to reduce inhibitions and reduce performance pressure. By blindfolding your lover, you can let loose and forget about any self-consciousness that might interfere with pleasure.” This blindfold is also dual-purpose, saying “Ohhhh…” on one side for sexy times, and “Shhhh…” on the other when you’re trying to get your sleep on.

Lace Vixen Cuffs by Hanky Panky
So we were clearly in a bit of a playful mood when creating this guide. While they aren’t the strongest of restraints… it will be hard for your partner to restrain from you when wearing these dangerously seductive lace cuffs.

Naughty & Nice Two Pack Thongs by Hanky Panky
We love a good set, and these are perfect for Valentine’s Day. Lace thongs – pretty much self-explanatory.

Signature Lace Peekaboo Bralette by Hanky Panky
If you haven’t caught on yet, we were really going for a theme here with 4-6. This bra is cute and sexy at the same time. Whether you want to show off for a partner, or feel sexy all by your damn self, this bra is a great option for you!

Kissable Massage Creme by Shuna
Who doesn’t like a good massage? And who really doesn’t like an even better dessert? Just sayin… ?

Guilty Pleasure Lubricant by Good Clean Love
But like, is it organic? It’s a month into the new year, and Good Clean Love helps fulfill that number one resolution to be healthier. Proper lubrication is so important for healthy and pleasurable sex. Like, so important. The fact that this lube comes in Cinnamon Vanilla? Icing on the cake (no pun intended, but damn!). ??

Sexplosion Bath Bomb by Kheper Games
If all of this has you feeling dirty, you can clean things up with these sexplosion bath bombs. While they include some super fun “position cards” showing you how to rub a “dub dub” in the tub (?)…. We see no reason you can’t use these for a solo bath sesh. Waterproof vibrator recommended (this little guy is also a great option)!

Drawstring Bag by Unbound
But where will I keep my new vibe? A cute drawstring bag – duh. Versatile and adorable. Double win.

Condoms by Lovability
Did we save the best for last? We love Lovability and the Lovability team so much. Lovability condoms are feisty, fashionable, and feminist AF.

Happy V DAY!! Don’t forget to use the code TABUVDAY15 on Unbound for 15% off!

Must be looooooove on the braaaaain 🧠. Or was that s£x? 👀🤭 Our brains are our largest s£x organs and sometimes they get a little sad, hyperactive, anxious, or overwhelmed. You won’t always be in the mood for s£x and that’s okay! Keep communication with your partner open and ongoing, check in with yourself and your mental health, and lean on the support of a trusted therapist or doctor if you need some extra guidance. 🫶🏽 Anything you would add?

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It is not wrong nor should it feel shameful to ✨seek pleasure.✨ I think those of us who grew up more religious were taught that you should always be in service of others and giving of yourself rather than concerned with our own needs or passions. While it is wonderful to be generous with giving (and can in fact be a source of pleasure), it should be equally encouraged to pursue your own pleasure — it whatever form it may take! It may feel self-indulgent, but why is that a bad thing? Pleasure boosts our mental health. It helps us cope with a difficult world, with anxiety, depression, and stress. It makes us feel good! It gives us something to look forward to. Pleasure helps us connect with others and with ourselves. Pleasure (as long as it is not at the expense of someone else’s safety or well-being) should be a priority, for our joy and for our health. It really is so important! Where do you find pleasure? I personally love a good massage… 💆🏽‍♀️

It’s time for a talk, friend. Let’s be clear, you nor your partner ever has to do *anything* you’re not comfortable with. That said, if it’s something you enjoy and that’s pleasurable to you, it’s okay to ask your partner for it! They can say no, but if they invalidate your pleasure, much less expect you to do something they won’t do?? The ball is then in your court to decide if this is the partner for you. You deserve someone who cares about and prioritizes your pleasure. Who is thrilled to be acquainted with your body, all of it! S-x can be vulnerable to talk about, but when you do…it’s so much better. 👅 included. Ask your partner what their hesitations are and have a *conversation.* Maybe they’re nervous, intimidated, or struggling with shame. Maybe they’re down to try other things you would enjoy and build up to it. The point is, it shouldn’t just be automatically dismissed. You can decide what’s right for you and what makes you feel aroused, validated, and appreciated. Whatever you do, don’t internalize their rejection. Your body is beautiful, desirable, and definitely worthy of pleasure. 😋🥰

A UK study published in the International Urogynecology Journal found that only 46% of participants correctly identified that a female has 3 holes in the external genitalia. 😬 Not great. We’re taught so desperately little about our bodies and so discouraged from exploring them that we don’t even know what we’ve got going on down there! Understanding your own anatomy (and getting educated on your partner’s anatomy) can boost pleasure 1000x!! So take a mirror, use your hands, and get comfy exploring! 🪞🕵🏽‍♀️ And if you really want to get informed (and inspired 😉), head to our website for our basics on pleasure and anatomy. What do you think? Could YOU correctly label a diagram of what lies beneath?

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