Want to Masturbate Quietly Because You Don’t Live Alone? This “Super Silent” Sex Toy Has Got You Covered

5 tips for discreet masturbation so you can focus on your pleasure.

Written in partnership with IOBA Toys

There are many factors to take into consideration when picking out vibrators. Some look for an ideal shape and size, some prefer theirs to be waterproof and others look for a certain amount of speeds. I, however, look for the vibrators that are as quiet as a mouse. My designated masturbation time is essential to me and as someone who is used to living with roommates, nothing kills the mood faster than worrying about whether or not your vibrator is too loud. 

During my last two years of undergrad, it was easier to masturbate as I pleased because I lived in a 3-bedroom apartment, so privacy was never an issue because we could easily lock our doors and be completely to ourselves. However, not too long after I graduated, I moved back in with my parents and I will continue to be under their roof until I move out of state to start graduate school.

As I’m living with my parents, I stay in my sister’s old room, which has a similar set-up as a loft; there’s no door to seclude myself, only stairs that lead up to the room. As you can imagine, this kind of situation is an avid masturbator’s worst nightmare, but I recently figured out a way to accommodate that with ioba’s high-quality 3-speed OhMyG Super Silent G-spot Massager and here’s how you can, too:

1. Inquire about the noise level beforehand.

When purchasing any vibrator online, read diligently through the product details. For example, ioba lists the specific noise level of the OhMyG in the product details, showing that OhMyG operates at < 30 dBA (decibels adjusted to reflect the ear’s response to different frequencies of sound). On a noise level chart, < 30 dBA is the equivalent of a whisper. If you want to get your hands on one, use code tabu25 at checkout for a nice lil’ discount!

2. Prepare some background noise.

I didn’t feel like I absolutely had to do this with the ioba OhMyG vibrator, but if you’re extra cautious about being discreet, it’s a good idea to have some on-going sounds in the background. You could have your favorite reality show playing on your TV or turn up the music on your stereo.

3. Use it in the bathtub or shower.

Indulge yourself in a warm bath or have the water pouring directly on you while taking a shower and unwind with the waterproof vibrating toy. Luckily, OhMyG is protected against the splashing of water so you’re free to use the water as a way to alleviate any fears of being too noisy. 

4. Consider your bodily position.

As opposed to lying on your back when you masturbate, try doing so on your stomach instead so that if there’s any chance that your breathing is heavy or you let out any post-orgasmic moans, your face will be headfirst into the pillow rather than outward into the atmosphere. As an added bonus, you can place the C-shaped vibrator internally as if being penetrated in a modified version of the doggy position with your stomach facing the bed while raising your hips slightly using the covers or another pillow so that OhMyG’s riveting, fingering motion mimicking pearl feature has access to reach the front wall of your vagina and get to the G-spot. 

5. Have open and honest communication with the people you live with.

Sometimes the biggest way to ease any potential embarrassment is to be upfront about it. You don’t have to make an announcement every time you’re about to have your self-pleasure time, but if you at least let the people you’re living with know that this is a routine engagement for you, they’ll probably be more understanding of your boundaries concerning privacy.

Though there are understandable privacy concerns when it comes to masturbation, don’t let the idea of having to control the sounds of your pleasure keep you from enjoying and satisfying yourself. Be sure to keep these tips and tricks in mind the next time you find yourself in a situation where you’re living with other people and you want to masturbate discreetly!

IN PARTNERSHIP WITH

Tatyannah King with OhMyG

GIF source: GIPHY, Illustrations by Leonor Carvalho

Must be looooooove on the braaaaain 🧠. Or was that s£x? 👀🤭 Our brains are our largest s£x organs and sometimes they get a little sad, hyperactive, anxious, or overwhelmed. You won’t always be in the mood for s£x and that’s okay! Keep communication with your partner open and ongoing, check in with yourself and your mental health, and lean on the support of a trusted therapist or doctor if you need some extra guidance. 🫶🏽 Anything you would add?

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It is not wrong nor should it feel shameful to ✨seek pleasure.✨ I think those of us who grew up more religious were taught that you should always be in service of others and giving of yourself rather than concerned with our own needs or passions. While it is wonderful to be generous with giving (and can in fact be a source of pleasure), it should be equally encouraged to pursue your own pleasure — it whatever form it may take! It may feel self-indulgent, but why is that a bad thing? Pleasure boosts our mental health. It helps us cope with a difficult world, with anxiety, depression, and stress. It makes us feel good! It gives us something to look forward to. Pleasure helps us connect with others and with ourselves. Pleasure (as long as it is not at the expense of someone else’s safety or well-being) should be a priority, for our joy and for our health. It really is so important! Where do you find pleasure? I personally love a good massage… 💆🏽‍♀️

It’s time for a talk, friend. Let’s be clear, you nor your partner ever has to do *anything* you’re not comfortable with. That said, if it’s something you enjoy and that’s pleasurable to you, it’s okay to ask your partner for it! They can say no, but if they invalidate your pleasure, much less expect you to do something they won’t do?? The ball is then in your court to decide if this is the partner for you. You deserve someone who cares about and prioritizes your pleasure. Who is thrilled to be acquainted with your body, all of it! S-x can be vulnerable to talk about, but when you do…it’s so much better. 👅 included. Ask your partner what their hesitations are and have a *conversation.* Maybe they’re nervous, intimidated, or struggling with shame. Maybe they’re down to try other things you would enjoy and build up to it. The point is, it shouldn’t just be automatically dismissed. You can decide what’s right for you and what makes you feel aroused, validated, and appreciated. Whatever you do, don’t internalize their rejection. Your body is beautiful, desirable, and definitely worthy of pleasure. 😋🥰

A UK study published in the International Urogynecology Journal found that only 46% of participants correctly identified that a female has 3 holes in the external genitalia. 😬 Not great. We’re taught so desperately little about our bodies and so discouraged from exploring them that we don’t even know what we’ve got going on down there! Understanding your own anatomy (and getting educated on your partner’s anatomy) can boost pleasure 1000x!! So take a mirror, use your hands, and get comfy exploring! 🪞🕵🏽‍♀️ And if you really want to get informed (and inspired 😉), head to our website for our basics on pleasure and anatomy. What do you think? Could YOU correctly label a diagram of what lies beneath?

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